Despite being super-cautious, and preaching consent, and doing what I thought was constantly checking in with my partners, I managed to twice cross boundaries and make someone uncomfortable (in a row!) without realizing it.
I feel super shitty and lost a lot of sleep about it. On the one hand, I wish they had told me the first time that something I was doing was making them uncomfortable, but on the other hand I should not have assumed anything. I should have asked questions, and because I didn't I caused a super weird rift between us.
It's a good thing that this person and I are on great terms and are quite close, so I know we can work past this.
I feel like I've learned a lot, and I know I'll be less inclined to fuck up like this in the future (I'm going to be realistic here and not say I'll never make that mistake again. I'm human.), I just wish it hadn't come at this expense.
Sex is complicated and weird. Are we ever going to get it right?
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