Saturday, September 25, 2010

Autumn means house shows!

Summer is officially over, my room mate/best friend has returned home from her travels, and Halifax is starting to feel normal again.
This means, of course, that we had the first house show of the season at the Roarphanage last night.

Mogli's new band, Snail Party, started the show. It was originally just her and Beyon, but somehow while I was away the band exploded to something like 6 or 7 members.



They were really fantastic. Everyone who plays in this band (I don't know if the photos are clear enough, but there's banjo, guitar, violin, cello, accordion, and saw) is amazing at their instrument. I'm so excited for there to be a group with a string section!


Sockfoot played after, more cello, more beautiful tunes. I am so excited for Mary (the guitarist on the left) to finally record. I don't think I'd ever take her album out of my stereo.
Kit Wilson-Yang, from Montreal, played third. (This is probably the clearest shot I have, they move a much while playing...). I am suuuuuuch a fan, it's kind of hard to be normal around them, you know? I first heard them last summer at a show at Pacific Flavour, and then we played with them last winter when we toured through Ottawa. I have to stop myself from singing their songs too loudly around the house...
We're (The Official Suckers) are doing a mini-tour through the maritimes with Kit over the next few days. We played Moncton a few nights ago, and then we're going to play in PEI on Sunday.


I don't have any photos from our set, but as you can see Ronnie Boy was doing a great job of promoting Mogli's merch, dinosaurs are excited that Pumpkin Ale is in season again (it is seriously the best beer!), and Mogli is absolutely the cutest in the world.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

There goes my posi

Um fuck.
Despite being super-cautious, and preaching consent, and doing what I thought was constantly checking in with my partners, I managed to twice cross boundaries and make someone uncomfortable (in a row!) without realizing it.
I feel super shitty and lost a lot of sleep about it. On the one hand, I wish they had told me the first time that something I was doing was making them uncomfortable, but on the other hand I should not have assumed anything. I should have asked questions, and because I didn't I caused a super weird rift between us.
It's a good thing that this person and I are on great terms and are quite close, so I know we can work past this.
I feel like I've learned a lot, and I know I'll be less inclined to fuck up like this in the future (I'm going to be realistic here and not say I'll never make that mistake again. I'm human.), I just wish it hadn't come at this expense.
Sex is complicated and weird. Are we ever going to get it right?